{"id":8861,"date":"2019-08-22T21:25:48","date_gmt":"2019-08-22T21:25:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/internetaddictsanonymous.org\/?page_id=8861"},"modified":"2026-05-31T14:40:26","modified_gmt":"2026-05-31T21:40:26","slug":"for-family-and-friends","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/internetaddictsanonymous.org\/tr\/for-family-and-friends\/","title":{"rendered":"Ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131lar\u0131n Ailesi ve Arkada\u015flar\u0131 \u0130\u00e7in"},"content":{"rendered":"

Web sitemizi buldu\u011funuza ve ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131 internet ve teknoloji kullan\u0131c\u0131lar\u0131na umut oldu\u011fu haberini alman\u0131za sevindik. Bir internet ve teknoloji ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131s\u0131na yak\u0131nsan\u0131z, bu durumun yaln\u0131zca ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131n\u0131n kendisi i\u00e7in de\u011fil, etraf\u0131ndakiler i\u00e7in de neden olabilece\u011fi zorluk ve ac\u0131n\u0131n muhtemelen zaten fark\u0131ndas\u0131n\u0131zd\u0131r. Ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131k, dokundu\u011fu herkese zarar veren ciddi bir sorundur. Bu sayfa, bir ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131ya yak\u0131nsan\u0131z \u00f6nemli bilgiler ve kaynaklar i\u00e7erir.

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Aile ve Arkada\u015flar i\u00e7in Toplant\u0131lar<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

IT-Anon<\/a> is a fellowship of people whose lives have been affected by someone else\u2019s internet and technology addiction. They support each other in bringing positive changes to their individual situations, whether or not the addict admits the existence of a problem or seeks help. If someone you love is suffering from internet and technology addiction, we encourage you to attend an IT-Anon meeting:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u00c7EVR\u0130M\u0130\u00c7\u0130\/TELEFON TOPLANTILARI<\/a><\/div>\n\n\n\n
IN-PERSON MEETINGS<\/a><\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n
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Sevdi\u011fim ki\u015finin ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 hakk\u0131nda ne yapabilirim?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Birincisi, hi\u00e7 kimse bir ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n zorunlu internet ve teknoloji kullan\u0131m\u0131ndan sorumlu de\u011fildir. Al-Anon slogan\u0131n\u0131n dedi\u011fi gibi, \u201cBuna ben sebep olmad\u0131m, onu kontrol edemem ve onu tedavi edemem.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sen sebep olmad\u0131n.<\/strong> Some people partly blame themselves for the dysfunctional behavior of their family members, particularly with addicts who are very quick to shift responsibility off themselves and blame others. Perhaps you shared online past times with your loved one, purchased them a computer or smart phone, or encouraged their online activities, thinking it was a harmless leisure activity. Maybe you\u2019ve been involved in some conflict and wonder if that has driven them to hide away in the internet. But no one is responsible for another person\u2019s behavior or mental disorders.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kontrol edemezsin.<\/strong> Arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131z veya aile \u00fcyenizle konu\u015fmay\u0131 denemi\u015f olabilirsiniz. Belki onlarla pazarl\u0131k yapt\u0131n\u0131z veya \u00fcltimatom verdiniz. Kendilerine ve ba\u015fkalar\u0131na ne gibi zararlar verdiklerini g\u00f6rmelerine yard\u0131mc\u0131 olmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131n\u0131z. Ve hi\u00e7biri i\u015fe yaramad\u0131. Bu senin i\u00e7in \u015fa\u015f\u0131rt\u0131c\u0131. Neden anlam\u0131yorlar ya da umursam\u0131yorlar? Neden senin i\u00e7in bariz olan\u0131 g\u00f6remiyorlar? Bu asl\u0131nda, kontrol \u00e7abalar\u0131n\u0131 ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131\u011fa mahkum eden ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131k hastal\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n bir belirtisidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tedavi edemezsin.<\/strong> Hepimiz sevdiklerimize yard\u0131m etme yetene\u011fimiz oldu\u011funa inanmak isteriz. S\u0131kl\u0131kla, do\u011fru bilgiyi alabilirsek, s\u00f6ylenecek ya da yap\u0131lacak do\u011fru \u015feyi bulabilirsek, belki kendimizle ilgili bir \u015feyleri de\u011fi\u015ftirebilirsek, sorunu \u00e7\u00f6zebilece\u011fimizi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u00fcz. \u0130nsanlar sorunlar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7\u00f6zebilmeli. Bunu neden bununla yapam\u0131yoruz? Basit bir nedeni var. Ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n tedavisi yoktur. Tedavi gerektirir. \u0130yile\u015fme s\u00fcreci uzun ve zordur. Ve bu s\u00fcreci ba\u015flatabilecek tek bir ki\u015fi var: \u0130nterneti ve teknolojiyi zorunlu olarak kullanan ki\u015fi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yapabilece\u011fin \u015feyler var. G\u00f6z \u00f6n\u00fcnde bulundurmak isteyebilece\u011finiz, di\u011fer aile \u00fcyelerinin ve arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n faydal\u0131 buldu\u011fu baz\u0131 \u00f6neriler \u015funlard\u0131r:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  1. Bilgi ve destek al\u0131n.<\/strong> Sevdi\u011finiz ki\u015finin kar\u015f\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131ya oldu\u011fu hastal\u0131\u011fa kendinizi al\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmak i\u00e7in internet ve teknoloji ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 hastal\u0131\u011f\u0131 hakk\u0131nda m\u00fcmk\u00fcn oldu\u011funca \u00e7ok \u015fey \u00f6\u011frenin. Ek olarak, ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131lar\u0131n aileleri ve arkada\u015flar\u0131 i\u00e7in di\u011fer kurtarma burslar\u0131n\u0131n literat\u00fcr\u00fc ve toplant\u0131lar\u0131, baz\u0131lar\u0131 \u00e7evrimi\u00e7i olarak da mevcut olan yararl\u0131 rehberlik sa\u011flar. Sizinkine \u00e7ok benzer durumlarda bulunmu\u015f, onlardan \u00e7ok \u015fey \u00f6\u011frenmi\u015f ve \u00f6\u011frendiklerini payla\u015fmaya istekli insanlar var.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. Share with your loved one.<\/strong> You can share our website with your loved one or suggest they look at our ITAA Welcome Pamphlet<\/a> (A4<\/a>) (printing instructions<\/a>), or our questionnaire on internet and technology addiction<\/a> to see whether they identify. If they agree that there are unhealthy aspects of their technology use, we encourage them to try attending one of our online meetings<\/a>. We recommend that newcomers attend six meetings in a short time frame before deciding whether our program may be helpful for them. However, if after mentioning our fellowship to your loved one they do not believe they have a problem or are not interested in getting help, then you can accept their decision without pressuring, manipulating, or shaming them. By providing your loved one with a safe emotional space to discuss their experiences, they may be more willing to open up about it in the future.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  3. Sevgiyle ayr\u0131l.<\/strong> Putting energy into arguing with someone who is using internet and technology compulsively will not help either of you. Your loved one has a serious problem that you are powerless to control or cure, and that they will not get help for until they want it. As much as you love someone, you cannot force this process on another person. Detaching with love means that we fully accept our powerlessness over the neurological condition that drives our loved one’s addictive thinking and acting, while at the same time maintaining genuine love for them and compassion for their struggles.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  4. Etkinle\u015ftirmeyi durdurun.<\/strong> Paradoxically, at the same time people are arguing with, bargaining with or shaming a compulsive internet and technology user, they are often (perhaps without realizing it) supporting the addiction in many ways. Anything that shields an addict from the consequences of their behavior is enabling, and can include such basic things as providing food, shelter, money, companionship, housekeeping, and covering for education, employment and legal difficulties. Helping a compulsive internet and technology user keep up an appearance of normalcy is helping them continue in the destructive behavior. While you cannot change them, you can make changes for yourself. You can shift your energy away from enabling behaviors and toward meeting your own needs.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  5. Kendine iyi bak.<\/strong> Whether or not your loved one ever stops using the internet and technology addictively, you deserve to have a healthy and happy life. We have discovered that no situation is really hopeless and that it is possible for us to find contentment, and even happiness, whether the addict is still using or not. Once you have accepted that you are powerless over their internet and technology behavior, you can begin to focus on what you can do to take care of yourself. With the help of others who have been where you are, you can learn to set healthy boundaries and stick to them.

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    Aile hastal\u0131\u011f\u0131 kavram\u0131 ve kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131k<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

    Ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131k bir\u00e7ok kez \u201caile hastal\u0131\u011f\u0131\u201d olarak tan\u0131mlanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r, yani ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131n\u0131n sorunlar\u0131ndan muzdarip olan ve i\u015flevsiz davran\u0131\u015f kal\u0131plar\u0131n\u0131 benimseyen tek ki\u015fi de\u011fildir. Aktif ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131ya en yak\u0131n ki\u015filer, farkl\u0131 \u015fekillerde de olsa bu etkilerin \u00e7o\u011fundan muzdariptir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131k, sa\u011fl\u0131ks\u0131z bir dereceye kadar ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131yla ilgili bir saplant\u0131d\u0131r ve genellikle ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131k bozuklu\u011fu olan biriyle ili\u015fkide geli\u015fir. Ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131 insanlar genellikle sorunlar\u0131 gizler ve sevdiklerini davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n sonu\u00e7lar\u0131ndan korur, ki\u015fiyi kontrol etmeye ve d\u00fczeltmeye ve sevgisini ve onay\u0131n\u0131 kazanmaya a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 derecede ba\u011flan\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Sevilen birinin internet ve teknoloji ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n y\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 etkilerinden kurtulmak i\u00e7in kendi temel ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131m\u0131za \u00f6ncelik vermeliyiz. Etkilenenlere b\u00fcy\u00fcme ve iyile\u015fme yolunda rehberlik eden literat\u00fcr, burslar ve dan\u0131\u015fmanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n kullan\u0131m\u0131n\u0131 te\u015fvik ediyoruz.

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    Ek kaynaklar<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

    There are fellowships that may be helpful for family and friends of internet and technology addicts. They can provide clear guidance on dealing with addiction in general, on healing from its effects, and on how to go about building a recovery fellowship. <\/p>\n\n\n\n