Suggestions for starting a new meeting
This script is a suggested newcomer format based on a daily topic and open sharing. Per our fourth tradition, each group is autonomous except in matters affecting ITAA as a whole, and so may adopt unique and varied meeting scripts and formats.
ITAA Suggested Meeting Script
Welcome to our meeting of Internet and Technology Addicts Anonymous.
We start the meeting by going around the room and introducing ourselves by first name only, and optionally, where we are calling from. I will start: “My name is ______ , and I am an Internet and technology addict in ______.” [each member introduces themselves]
We have meetings every day. Our meeting schedule is posted on the website, internetaddictsanonymous.org.
At the beginning of each meeting, we ask that members close other programs on their computer or phone, turn their phones on silent, and commit to listening to one another. Please also mute your audio when not speaking. Please also be mindful of sending messages in the chat to other members during the sharing part of the meeting, as this can distract others from being able to listen.
We start the meeting with the Serenity Prayer:
Higher Power, Grant me The Serenity
to Accept the things I cannot Change,
the Courage to Change the things I Can,
and the Wisdom to Know the Difference.
[Chair may ask for a volunteer to read the Mission Statement].
Internet and Technology Addicts Anonymous is a fellowship of people who support each other in recovering from the problems resulting from excessive internet and technology use. I.T.A.A. is not affiliated with any political agenda, religion, or outside interests. Our single purpose is to abstain from excessive internet and technology use and to help others find freedom from the effects of this addiction. We have no membership requirements beyond the desire to stop excessive internet and technology use.
Our groups share our collective experience and the principles that helped us. Each of us is free to try out or disregard the suggestions of the program and other members.
[Chair may ask for a volunteer to read the twelve steps of ITAA].
The Twelve Steps of ITAA
Step 1: We admitted that we were powerless over our addiction, and that our lives had become unmanageable.
Step 2: We came to believe that power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
Step 3: We made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of such power.
Step 4: We made a searching and fearless personal inventory of ourselves.
Step 5: We admitted to ourselves, another human being, and power greater than ourselves the exact nature of our problematic behavior and attitudes.
Step 6: We were entirely ready to have power greater than ourselves completely free us of all these defects of character.
Step 7: We humbly sought from higher power the removal of our shortcomings.
Step 8: We made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
Step 9: We made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
Step 10: We continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
Step 11: We sought through practices such as meditation and prayer to improve our conscious contact with power greater than ourselves, seeking only knowledge of what to do and the strength to do so.
Step 12: Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to internet and technology addicts, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
The Tradition of the Month:
Tradition 1: Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends on ITAA unity.
Tradition 2: For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority—a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern.
Tradition 3: The only requirement for ITAA membership is a desire to stop using internet and technology compulsively.
Tradition 4: Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or ITAA as a whole.
Tradition 5: Each group has but one primary purpose—to carry its message to the compulsive internet and technology user who still suffers.
Tradition 6: An ITAA group ought never endorse, finance, or lend the ITAA name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property, and prestige divert us from our primary purpose.
Tradition 7: Every ITAA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.
Tradition 8: ITAA should remain forever nonprofessional, but our service centers may employ special workers.
Tradition 9: ITAA as such, ought never be organized, but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve.
Tradition 10: ITAA has no opinion on outside issues, hence the ITAA name ought never be drawn into public controversy.
Tradition 11: Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, films, television, and other public media of communication.
Tradition 12: Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all these traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities.
[OPTIONAL READING: We will now select a short reading from our recovery library for reflection, as a prompt for sharing.]
Our Topic: (topic of your choosing, a list can be found at the bottom of these notes)
Discussion is not limited to the topic of the day. If you are new, you can ask any questions, introduce yourself or share what brought you to ITAA. We ask that members avoid cross talk, which is any commenting, interrupting, judging, advice giving, feedback, or dialogue in response to another member’s share. Please also try to refrain from profanity, stay muted when not sharing, and refrain from mentioning the names of specific websites, apps, or programs as this may trigger other members. [Depending on the size of the meeting, the chair can set a time limit for shares and request a volunteer timekeeper].
And with that, the floor is open for shares. If you’d like to share, please unmute and introduce yourself.
(Optional prompts for after the first round of shares)
- Opening the floor for 2nd shares.
- Reading from literature.
- Having 5 or 10 minutes of group meditation.
- A brief round of introductions/check-ins: where we’re calling from, how we’re feeling today, an achievement, or a tool we’re using.
- A brief round of sharing our bottom, middle and top lines.
Thank you all for being here and helping me stay off addictive internet and technology use one more day!
If you are new, didn’t have a chance to share, or are struggling, please feel free to stay as a number of us are available to talk or answer any questions after the meeting ends.
Each I.T.A.A. group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions. We have no dues or fees. Our regular monthly expenses amount to $80; if you would like to make a donation, you can find our donate button on our website.
We always need more meeting leaders. Anybody can lead a meeting. If you think you might like to lead a meeting, or if you’d like to start a new meeting, please reach out through the contact form on the website.
On the first weekend of each month, ITAA holds a business meeting. Each meeting time rotates by eight hours to enable members in different time zones to attend. All are welcome to participate. The next meeting is on [DATE: Business Meeting Schedule], and the full schedule and the upcoming agenda are on the website. If you would like to add something to the agenda, please send a message through the contact form on the website no later than one week in advance of the meeting.
Here are a few announcements:
We also have a number of open service positions, which are listed on the website.
Are there any other announcements for the good of ITAA?
Does anyone have recovery time that you’d like to mention and celebrate with the group today?
Sponsorship is an informal, voluntary relationship in which a more experienced member helps guide a newcomer through recovery. Members can also co-sponsor each other to work the steps together. If you are interested in sponsorship, co-sponsorship, please stick around after the meeting as there will be an opportunity to connect with other members.
[If anybody volunteers: Thank you for volunteering. Please feel free to reach out to _____ after the meeting if you are looking for a sponsor.]
Let’s have a moment of silence for the addicted internet and technology user who is still suffering……
(Prayer/affirmation of your choosing)
- May I be gentle with myself today. May I be open to help from higher power and the fellowship, which can lead me to recovery.
- Just for today, I accept life on life’s terms. Just for today, I am grateful for all of the blessings in my life.
- Just for today, I will be present with myself. Just for today, I will put myself before my internet and technology use.
- Higher Power, grant us the humility to realize our ignorance, admit our mistakes and recognize our need. Help us to praise rather than criticize, to sympathize rather than to discourage, to build rather than to destroy.
Let us hug each other (To hug one another, just say “hugs” out loud).
Who you see here, what is said here, when you leave here, let it stay here.
Now that the meeting is over, we traditionally allow newcomers to ask questions of people who remain and allow anyone to share who didn’t share during the meeting. Questions or shares?
- One of the 12 steps or 12 traditions.
- Introduce yourself and share how your recovery is going.
- Safe behavior
- Living life on life’s terms
- What is available to you in recovery?
- Discovering your unique recovery needs
- What does your addiction cover up?
- Hitting rock bottom
- Prioritizing recovery
- Healthy forms of rest and pleasure
- Letting go of addiction related content and paraphernalia.
- Reminders: Why is this fellowship important
- Reminders: When did you realize you were powerless over your addiction?
- Patterns of your addiction and recovery
- Open mindedness
- Coping with difficulties
- Staying present
- The many forms of compulsion
- Self compassion
- Being open to change.
- Letting our addiction take the wheel.
- The “all or nothing” perspective
- The addicted internet and tech user who is still suffering
- “All is change, all yields its place, all comes and goes”
- Tools of Recovery
- Attitude of gratitude
- Belief in a Higher Power
- Contempt prior to investigation
- Freedom through sobriety
- Group inventory
- Letting go of anger
- Let’s be friendly with our friends
- Living one day at a time
- Making amends
- Participation and action
- Patience and tolerance
- Personal spiritual experience and spiritual awakening
- Plan the action—not the result
- Practice these principles in all our affairs
- Principles before personalities
- Projection—living in the wreckage of the future
- Responsibility declaration
- Rigorous honesty
- Staying away from the first drink (or first video, article, etc.)
- Three Legacies—Recovery, Unity and Service
- Twelfth Stepping
- Twelve Concepts
- Understanding Anonymity
- Ways of carrying the I.T.A.A. message
- What is sobriety
- Working with othersSmall victories
- Healthy Boundaries
- You always have the chance for a fresh start
- The wisdom to know the difference
- Playing the tape to the end